i was browsing the 'culture' pages of the Guardian when i came across
this article. i should have known better than to read it - i've never read anything by Greer i've got on with, and i'd never heard of Cyrus. well, in general, i didn't feel any better for reading it, but one part that really bothered me wasn't about the story so much, as just a blanket statement on girlhood:
We train female children to be manipulative and to exploit their sex. From the time she is tiny, a girl in our society is taught to flirt. She is usually dressed like a mini-whore in pink and tinsel, short skirt, matching knickers, baby-doll pyjamas, long hair falling over her face. She learns to court attention and, when successful, to hide her face. If she's lucky enough to get to be a big sister she might get over this sleazy conditioning, but very few daughters these days get to grow out of being "daddy's girl". When the time comes she is likely to reject approaching womanhood, desperate to keep her thighs skinny, and nearly as desperate to acquire hard, high breasts. The idea of growing into her own body is charmless, frightening. One thing we know about the Leibovitz photograph is that Cyrus saw nothing amiss in clutching a satin sheet to her apparently naked bosom, and looking at the camera over her shoulder. Girls are taught to look at the world in that sidelong fashion from the time they come to consciousness.
um... really?
really?? i just don't recognise that at all. it makes me feel quite ill. my parents didn't emphasise my gender as a child, i was just allowed to be a little kid. i was quite boyish, but they didn't make a big deal of that either. other people would usually refer to me as a boy and they wouldn't always correct them, it just wasn't considered that important. i remember the first times i tried out womanly things as being very awkward, unnatural, whether it was walking in high heels or mimicking certain expressions, or poses. it was definitely something that happened when i was well into adolescence, and continued years into 'adulthood'. i know my experience isn't the same as everyone elses, but the generalisation portrayed in that paragraph is just sickening. out of curiousity - does anyone recognise my or Greer's version of events? am i just uncommonly well protected or late to catch on